Are we still talking about this? You would think after all these years this issue would be resolved. Many of us as woman have not resolved it within ourselves. It's us who is asking the question. You can have it All! I wanted it all! What does ALL look like? How do I do this? It's an individual question. For me it's the business, the relationship and the kids. Once I was in it I was overwhelmed, frustrated and felt like I wasn't doing anything well.
When you are trying to balance a relationship and building a business or a career it's tricky, then life happens sprinkle in a few kiddos and it the wheels come off the bus. For most of us when you are invested and love what you are doing that is your first child. You nurture it, spend a LOT of time growing it and raising it. You are protective, sometimes over protective.
After chasing this dream I found myself resenting the work that I loved, my business partner and the business that I built. I was feeling guilty, overwhelmed and overworked. I was lost - as I was looking for help I was only finding my peers in the same situation... trying to balance life, work and family. Many were losing sleep, cutting corners trying to find ways to manage this craziness. Even my friends who worked for large companies and worked from home a few days a week were still working a full time PLUS job, volunteering at school, and trying to make time for their man and themselves. Something or someone was always being neglected.
It took me sometime to figure out how to accomplish what I had originally set out to achieve. It required me to re-evaluate, to get clear on what 'Having it all " looked like for me. It was really hard and I felt like I was giving up - I was feeling vulnerable and very insecure. I was conflicted!
I was going to have to hand over some of my responsibilities, trust that others will care and nurture my business and help it grow. Let go ? - just like the first time I dropped my child at daycare - ugh - how was I going to do this ? I felt like I was giving up a part of myself. I knew logically that this made sense, emotionally; I was a mess. It required me to make major mindset shift. This was best for me the business and my family; setting my ego aside, and understanding it was no longer just about me. I had to adjust, for the business to continue growing, for myself as a mother, boss babe and wife.
-" Having it all" is personal for each of us. Your personal decisions may be determined by economics, society, religion, geography and opportunities and of course don't forget "YOU"... what you want. It requires us to think about things differently, create boundaries, use leverage and communicate clearly with ourselves and our community. As women most of us are conditioned to please and try to make everyone happy - that's impossible!
My goal is to help you to gain clarity on your "All", work on your Mindset and deal with the emotions that will come up and develop strategies for yourself and your business.
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